Have you ever felt invisible?
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| This little beauty will never be invisible! |
A couple of years ago, I went shopping with my daughter-in-law and my sweet little granddaughters. I had so much fun following the girls around the store looking at the things they were interested in. These are the same little girls with a massive fingernail polish collection, so part of our time was spent looking at the little girls’ “make-up” section. I distinctly remember a discussion about lip gloss made in China and sold in packages of 15 or so….my advice was “just say no.”
Anyway.
When we went to lunch later, some of the wind went out of my sails. I felt like somewhere between TJ Maxx and Olive Garden, I had put on Harry Potter’s invisibility cloak. The waiter at the restaurant made no eye contact with me and no questions were directed at me. I felt totally left out and as if my opinion didn’t matter.
And I didn’t like it. I have a feeling as I age, I will experience this more often.
I kind of sound like a 2 year old, don’t I?
There is something about us that craves attention.
Affirmation.
Significance.
We want to know we matter and are important.
From my experience, I don’t think it matters how old we are either. We need to feel like we MATTER.
Flash Forward to the present: I am going to admit something to you all. I am embarrassed because I should know better, but here I go.
Some situations have occurred in my life in the past few weeks that had left me feeling unvalued and unimportant. After grumbling about it in my head for several days and letting it rob me of some of my joy, I finally opened up about it to my sweet husband. Talking about it with him helped me to realize that this issue…just like all of them…goes back to my relationship with my Heavenly Father.
My personal significance MUST NOT come from the fickle reactions of any PERSON, who is also trying to work out his own emotional “junk” and may be doing it at my expense.
I came across this comment from Anne on the BooMama blog that was about a completely different topic, but it was just what I needed to hear.
First: know who you are in Christ. Ephesians 1 (from Believing God): Blessed, Chosen, Adopted, Accepted, Redeemed, Forgiven. Knowing who God says you are is crucial. Second: Feelings are temporary. Always go with what you know to be true. About God, yourself, others, situations, etc. What is true will surpass what you feel, every time. And sometimes you have to act on truth, when it’s the opposite of your feelings.
Now that is some good stuff, don’t you agree?
My significance…and yours too…has to come from the ONE whose opinion really matters. We are NOT invisible to HIM.
Thanks for listening and have a wonderful day!
Susan, I am so happy that I am not invisable to the Lord. Gee, He hangs around to listen to me , when others have tuned me out.LOL Oh yes, sometimes when we are with younger people, you tend to get looked over…sadly even by them at times. xoxo, Susie
Hi Susan – I love this! Feelings come and go but His love for us is always true and abundant. He SEES us! xo Sue
Hi sweet Susan! Thank you for sharing your heart. Feelings are temporary and my husband is telling me that quite often 🙂 I am glad you shared this post because I needed to read it. The Lord sees us and that is all that matters. But how I pray I will not make feel someone invisible, but rather pour God's love onto them. Thank you my friend. Have a beautiful day!
Love and hugs,
Stephanie
I can relate! Thanks for sharing this, I'm thankful for you.
Thanks for sharing your heart. We all feel that way from time to time if we admit it. We all want to be seen and heard. Thankfully Jesus always does. Our identity and security is in Him.
Yes, I have days where I feel invisible. But He is reminding me that He is the God who sees me. Thank you for sharing your beautiful heart!
Susan,
So sorry that someone or ones have made you feel that way about yourself.
I hope talking to husband has put things back into perspective for you and that you and your quiet time can resolve any left over issues.
PS…I am watching the tv show Psych.
You had asked me about a week ago.
Have a wonderful evening!
Brett
What a great message, Susan. I have been at those spots in my life,too. It is an odd feeling-that one of being overlooked- of being "less than". Thank God we are ALL the same in HIS eyes- xo Diana
Susan – first of all, any gal who references Harry Potter's invisibility cloak is a significant friend of mine!
Secondly, we all feel that way sometimes, just remember what and who matters and forget the rest!
Kelly
So very very true! You are an inspiring lady and I appreciate you!
Good Morning Susan, thanks so much for sharing. I agree with you. We need to look up and and remember of our value to Him. Blessings and smiles, Emilou 🙂
Hi Susan, I just wanted to tell you I did link up with the Five Minute Friday. It was fun I am glad I did it! Thanks…
What I wrote about was a little bit on this very subject of your post. I am just so thankful we have husbands that help us with these feelings. And a Father who gives us His full attention.
Blessings, Roxy
Amen, Sister!
Isn't it good to know that our heavenly Father loves us and gives us our value?
You have a delightful personality. Keep being that lovely, loving person, looking to bless others.
For me…when I put my eyes on HIM and on blessing others, I do disappear, in a beautiful way. [hugs] to you my friend.
It's a hard one!
The other day I was thinking…why do I have to BEG to have friends? Sometimes feels like the whole world is shopping and eating out without me. I HATE that I put so much stock in anyone other than God and I catch myself and apologize to Him for being that way.
This was great and something I needed to read this day. Thank you for being faithful, listening to the Spirit and writing what is in your heart. It is a blessing!